I have never understood the expression, "You just want to have your cake and eat it too."
Of course I'm going to eat a cake if I have one. Duh.
What does it mean if you kiss someone, and you don't enjoy it? What if you're dating somebody, but they're not the person you think about before you go to sleep? Does that make you a bad person? How do you stop being a bad person? Let's say hypothetically, you find a way to stop being a bad person, but everyone you know thinks you're a worse person because of it. What then? How do you get out of that?
What if, really, you're just totally overanalyzing something, and the truth is you're absolutely terrified of committment? How do you know if that's the case?
If you're in a relationship, and the other person feels like they're on top of the world, but you come home and cry because you feel like you're losing your mind, what does that mean? And what are you supposed to do?
The point being, I don't think I have a cake.